Shelley Galitz

Dr. Warner

English 112B

3 December 2008

True Love Poetry: Annotated Bibliography

Why teach love poems? Does anyone believe in true love? Maybe it's naive to think there is such a thing, and even more naive to expose teens to images involving true love in the hopes of achieving even a serious discussion of whether it exists, much less any serious consideration of looking for such a romantic ideal in one's own life. Isn't it much more realistic and sophisticated to wait to choose a spouse on reality TV than to entertain the possibility that one might find a partner who shares one's values and offers and accepts trust and respect? If the world really is neutral toward the individual, then why work against the grain, why not simply prepare teens for the world's cruelty and leave it at that; wouldn't it be kinder to do that than to hold up images that no one can attain in real life?

But what if the purpose of the image is to inspire? It's possible to use disturbing images to help teens deal with the consequences of rape, incest, and other "real life" issues, without also categorically banishing images of life that do not include such issues but instead focus on ways of being such as trust that can make one's life more meaningful. If meaningful is out of style, that's just the point. Love poetry should not be allowed to disappear from the bookshelves or the classrooms just because it's out of style right now.

There's a saying that we should be both the wood and the fire that burns the wood at the same time. In other words, be neither a "poor me" person who only identifies only with being burned, nor a Pollyanna who identifies only with joy; otherwise, either way, you're missing out on the richness of life. So does teaching poetry that emphasizes and conveys images of true love qualify as teaching images of a Pollyanna outlook?  No, and here's why: love is just about the scariest thing there is. Teens need to know that nevertheless, it's still possible.

How scary is it to open yourself to another person so much that you're actually, not comically but actually, sitting on the toilet with them in the room? The thought of it is so scary that it's almost impossible not to make this into a comic situation. But from Sharon Olds' "True Love," there's an image of just this. The fear is balanced with the reward in this poem; true love with a partner is made to seem possible, to feel possible.

The other poems in this bibliography don't reach that same balance; they provide individually and collectively different perspectives on the topic. Sharon Olds to me is the most intensely real of all of these because it best blends the physical with the bigger picture.

Shakespeare, William. "Let me not to the marriage of true minds." Making Literature Matter. Comp. John Clifford, John Schilb. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2009. 573.

Shakespeare's 1609 Sonnet 116 provides timeless images of true love while giving a shorter offering of Shakespeare than Romeo and Juliet. While the short length of the work allows for investigating the meanings and images more deeply, the beauty of the language lends itself to the subject matter. This is a moving poem read aloud even if the listener doesn't know the meaning of the Shakespearean language or consciously understand all of the imagery.

Bradstreet, Anne. "To My Dear and Loving Husband." Making Literature Matter. Comp. John Clifford, John Schilb. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2009. 574.

This is a poem that just dares you to ask whether it can possibly be sincere. It's the one that starts, "If ever two were one, then surely we./ If ever man were loved by wife, then thee." The poet was born in England and came over to what is now the USA in the 1600's. Read it for yourself and see what you think; I take it as sincere. From the questions in the anthology from which I took this poem, the editor(s) doubt Bradstreet's sincerity. The first question is "Do you believe that the speaker means what she says? Why?" Look at that question in light of this one: "Why might she feel she has to repay her husband's love? Is true love based on reciprocity?" The second question assumes the speaker does feel she has to repay her husband's love; the poem need not be read this way. So, of course, use the questions critically.

Cummings, E..E. "somewhere I have never travelled." Making Literature Matter. Comp. John Clifford, John Schilb. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2009. 573.

The editors have indicated in the introduction to this poem that Edward Estlin Cummings (1894 – 1962) preferred upper case for his name, usually written "e.e. cummings." He wrote this poem in 1931. The first two stanzas seem mysterious, but then the third suddenly brings you into the moment, but told from a certain distance, of how this male speaker's love of the woman he speaks of impacts him.

The last three stanzas are worth a thousand magazine articles speculating on and recounting what a man can feel for a woman, except that this poem has both clarity and significance. It, like Sharon Olds' "True Love," shows how (exactly how) love can change the inside of you.

Szymborska, Wislawa. "True Love." Making Literature Matter. Comp. John Clifford, John Schilb. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2009. 577.

If students laugh at the previous poems, and they also laugh at this one, they've been caught! This poem, most of it anyway, gets into how disgusting lovers can be with their happiness overflowing all over the place. But then here are the last two stanzas: "Let the people who never find true love/keep saying that there's no such thing. /Their faith will make it easier for them to live and die."

This poem dramatically demonstrates use of tone and irony, and shows one way that love changes the bigger picture.

Olds, Sharon. "True Love." [This isn't a typo; same title as the previous poem.] Making Literature Matter. Comp. John Clifford, John Schilb. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2009. 573.

This poem uses sexual imagery in a way that shows how the sexual relationship in marriage symbolizes and creates a living union that is "the most blessed time of [the speaker's] life." She is on the toilet, her husband who has been in the same room takes her hand as she calls to him, and he says as he takes it, "I cannot see beyond it. I cannot see beyond it."        This image of what love can be is unforgettable.

Harper, Michael. "Discovery." Making Literature Matter. Comp. John Clifford, John Schilb. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2009. 580.

This uses an extended image of the speaker's experience waking up to find his partner next to him awake, caring enough not to have woken him up despite her desire in the moment. He touches the light bulb to find out how long she had "looked" and "cared." The last line is, "The bulb was hot. It burned my hand."  What is hot is the desire, and it is the caring.

The poem gets across very well this blend of desire and caring that is such an integral part of marriage.

Dickinson, Emily. "Wild Nights – Wild Nights!" Making Literature Matter. Comp. John Clifford, John Schilb. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2009. 581.

The speaker has found what he or she is looking for. The poet is Emily Dickenson, but the speaker says, in the last two lines, "Might I but moor – Tonight --/In Thee." The poem describes the speaker's clarity as he or she contemplates his or her lover. The subject of the poem seems to be the clarity itself, although in the context the speaker gives, what the speaker is clear about is not merely sexual, despite the erotic feel of the last two lines.

This short poem teaches how just a little bit deeper of a reading can give an enormously deeper meaning.

Rose, Wendy. "Julia." Making Literature Matter. Comp. John Clifford, John Schilb. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2009. 583.

Supposedly, or according to the editors of Making Literature Matter, the speaker in the poem is Julia Pastrana (1834 – 1860), a woman whose husband exhibited her as a freak because of a medical condition of hers that resulted in hair covering her body.  But the poem can be read without reference to this Julia. If it is read without the reference, it speaks to the fear that the love whose evidence is so strong, "Tell me again/how . . . my eyes [are] so dark/you would lose yourself swimming/man into fish," is not real after all.

This poem can be taught alongside some of the others, perhaps especially "Wild Nights – Wild Nights!" and Sharon Olds' "True Love, " both of which express a felt certainty of love, to bring out the idea of this fear that the love isn't real.

Shakespeare, William. "that time of year." [sonnet 73] The Riverside Shakespeare. Ed. G. Blakemore Evans. Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1974. 1762.

Can love be this strong? The speaker is old, in ruins, and he sees that his lover perceives this in all its manifestations and loves him all the more.

The poem gives one answer to the question, "How can this be?" How can love be this strong?

Shakespeare, William. "My mistress' eyes." [sonnet 130] The Riverside Shakespeare. Ed. G. Blakemore Evans. Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1974. 1773.

The speaker goes on and on about how badly his lover fulfils his, or some assumed, romantic ideal, "And in some perfumes is there more delight/Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks." Ouch! But then the speaker goes on, "I grant I never saw a goddess go, / My mistress when she walks treads on the ground. / And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare/ As any she belied with false compare."

Apparently, love doesn't depend on whether or not the lover matches some ideal; a valuable lesson for teens.